I'm Esther Teitelbaum, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and I use IFS in my trauma work with clients at my office in Cedarhurst, NY, and online throughout New York, New Jersey, and Florida. If you've heard people mention "parts work" and wondered what it really means, or whether it could help you, I'd love to explain it the way I would if you were sitting across from me.

I'm Esther Teitelbaum, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and I see couples at my office in Cedarhurst, NY, and online throughout New York, New Jersey, and Florida. I'd like to walk you through the signs you need couples therapy that I see most often, and why you don't have to wait for a crisis to call.

You could perform this argument from memory at this point. It starts over something small. The sharp tone he used in front of your sister. A text she did not answer. Who was supposed to call the plumber. Within four minutes you are in a conversation you have had so many times that both of you know the next line before it arrives. One of you is getting louder and more precise, building the case. The other one has gone flat and quiet, answering in three words (or less), and eve

It all begins with a change in the “emotional” weather. You are less hungry. You sleep worse. You find yourself rehearsing a conversation in the shower that has not happened and probably will not happen in those words. By Saturday night you have planned what you will wear, what you will not bring up, how long you will stay, and which route to the door you will take if it takes a bad turn. And then it is fine. Mostly fine. There is one comment. Your mother says the thing abou

Something about how it ended felt exactly the same. The breakup was familiar, almost routine. Time and again, she found herself in the same kind of relationship: intense at first, damaging by the end. I am Esther Teitelbaum, a licensed clinical social worker in Cedarhurst, NY, and a lot of the people who sit down across from me are asking some version of the same question: why do I keep repeating the same relationship patterns with completely different people? I work with